IT'S NOT, "JUST WHAT IT IS"
The expression, “it is what it is”, puzzles me. When I asked a friend what that saying meant to them I was told, "It means there is nothing we can do about the situation." Thus, “it is what it is”, is an expression implying "stuckness." It's like putting a period at the end of a sentence. No more to be said. End of story. However, this is not always the case -- in fact, usually not the case. Possibilities are everywhere.
One day a friend and I had plans to go for a walk -- until it began raining. I called her, "Susan, it's raining. Let's walk another day." She replied, "We won't melt. I'll bring my umbrella." I had allowed myself to become stuck. In another situation I accidentally spilled some paint on a canvas, but on this occasion I let the painting sit for a couple of days, while also looking at it from different angels. Finally I saw how I could make the splash become a part of the painting. Utilizing our innate curiosity means looking at the situation from different perspectives.
I learned this lesson from my father. After the large family business was almost destroyed by a horrific fire, it didn't stop him. He never cried or complained. He certainly didn't utter the words, “It is what it is”, and walk away. Instead he asked himself, "What can I do about this situation." What he did do, was rebuild an even larger and more successful business. That destructive fire lit a positive creative fire within my father.
Sometimes this is hard -- particularly right after a crisis. During those times I have to stand back and recoup my energy before I can allow questions to surface. Yet, during calmer times, curiosity can be merely a routine part of the day. I love waking up each morning and asking myself how can I make the most of this day? How can I make it unique and creative? Don't get me wrong. Some days that is a real struggle; I just have to remind myself that I -- and everyone else -- was born with curiosity. It is innately a beautiful part of who we are. I just need to remember that curiosity is the spark that ignites the creative fire.